Dating sites for over 40
While I have yet to be able to consider a guy in his twenties, I stopped ignoring the men in their mid-thirties.
If a 34-year-old wants to meet for a drink, and he’s not awkward or crude in his messages, I’ll meet him. Same goes for the man in his early fifties that I once considered “too old.” What’s the harm? Here’s what I noticed once I stopped caring about meeting other people’s expectation: I started getting more dates.
The thick skin I had developed during that time I wasn’t getting much attention made it exponentially easier to take risks and say no. I think a lot of women my age forget that we have the power to write our own script. The true sign of being 40 and single on a dating site? I knew that the one thing I didn’t want to do was exhaust myself by trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.With the thousands of letters I’d received over the years, the first tone I learned quickly to detect was hopelessness. I didn’t want to go down that path; chasing men I knew probably didn’t want me.At 38, I selected maybe as my answer about wanting to start a family. My profile views included very, very few peeks from men between 37 and 47 in New York City.I was the Belle of The Ball for men in the suburbs, though.